Freedom has a great value and a different meaning nowadays.
After one and a half years developing new rules of behavior, I discovered the real meaning of this word – FREEDOM.
To be confined made my life walk in specific directions. I have to say that it was a very special opportunity to do things I always thought I didn’t have time to do, like: read, write and exercise. I was used to doing these things but always in a gap of daily “Ito do…” tasks.
As I couldn’t go outside and do what I was used to the way I used to, I discovered how to go inside myself. I had the chance to discover and experience new feelings and behaviors I wouldn’t imagine I could have. That was the first door to freedom.
In this mood I learned that everything in life is an opportunity to understand myself and the surroundings in another level.
One day a book whispered in my ear. Go beyond. I had a strange feeling: Why not? Just think in another level, just listen, don’t come up with an opinion about everything, be in doubt, accept you don’t know”. Beyond is so broad that one can feel a spark of freedom only by thinking about it.
The book kept on telling me that there were 3 doors, one to go in, one to go out and one to go beyond.
“The way in and the way out are often the same but the way beyond is usually quite different, hard to find and really absolutely worth it.” (from “The Mines of Liht: Book 1 The Way Beyond (English Edition)” by Arif Shah).
I began to meditate about that.
To go inside and to deal with my Inner Being is an opportunity to deal with situations that bothered me in an unusual way. I’ve started to practice the way in. From this place (or state of being) I had a chance to be comfortable in my uncomfortable feelings and to think about the possibility of behavior in a new way. I was going to a new way out by being in touch with your Inner Being – a state away from conditioned behaviors and thoughts – you have the chance to go beyond .
Go Beyond! Was what I listened. Give yourself an opportunity. Why not develop a new emotional menu for your acting and of course your feelings? Yes, you can do it. Another door to freedom was opened.
I kept on fishing freedom.
But you can say: What about the others? How to get free from an unpleasant conversation or situation how to get free from it without being rude or unpolite.
The point is how to be strategic and lead the situation to a positive place.
First fishhook: accept that you have an Inner Being that is a kind of internal guide. Not thoughts, not feelings, but a different nature inside ourselves. An Intuitive guide.
Second fishhook: think about being responsible. You have at least 50% chance if you are dealing with one other person to let the situation go in one or another direction- a positive or a negative way. Choose what is more comfortable for you.
Third fishhook: feel what you are perceiving about the situation, but don’t let it be guided by a feeling that puts you and the others down. There are some voices that we listen to, and we learned in our family of origin that if you keep on listening prevent you from growing and building your present and future. There are other voices that lead you in a positive direction. Observe it and discover what you really want. Learn about that and choose what to believe and how to behave.
Fourth fishhook: change conversation subtly or suddenly. With the others and even with yourself. Be kind about bad thoughts with yourself. Give your brain good food, I mean good thoughts. Persist on that. You must be brave.
Freedom is like the silence, its there but you can’t see it because it’s invisible.
The greatest freedom is to use all your senses in a constructive way. Remember what the neuroscientists say: you can use much more of your Brain. This is healthy and will lead you to a wiser way of life. Fish some freedom once a week. I’m sure you’ll will enjoy it.
